tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-50929723264261954302024-02-27T01:35:20.251-08:00Robin's RoundupRobin is first and foremost a mom. She is also the Executive Director of the Children’s Book Council, the national trade association of children’s book publishers, and Every Child a Reader, the industry’s literacy foundation. As a mom and a book person, Robin's worlds often collide in a very positive way. This blog is Robin’s way of sharing with parents, librarians and teachers the great opportunities and information about wonderful new books that come her way.Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.comBlogger181125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-88464753046257300442012-03-28T15:42:00.000-07:002012-03-28T15:42:00.068-07:00If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck ... maybe it's a dot<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgcufs_92YWz2k_7xTQdOlrVnYFT10jl03itR5LdOySD4mxT-nQb-cDAfEp3F1OvJNahQ7Ocy0VCV_XBw2wkYPycK3DFCrW-P4opBFzCkRCbPZOp6tbb0M8MtVyS7z1trfJX7wT8fHWQHU/s1600/Box.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="161" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgcufs_92YWz2k_7xTQdOlrVnYFT10jl03itR5LdOySD4mxT-nQb-cDAfEp3F1OvJNahQ7Ocy0VCV_XBw2wkYPycK3DFCrW-P4opBFzCkRCbPZOp6tbb0M8MtVyS7z1trfJX7wT8fHWQHU/s200/Box.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>It seems like most parents experience those blissful days when their little ones need nothing more than a cardboard box to entertain themselves. I remember those hours of entertainment watching our daughters make games, toys and surprising playthings out of anything they could find - they would spend hours decorating cardboard boxes left over from deliveries and even longer crawling in and out of them and incorporating them into games. Wouldn't it be nice to be able to bottle that creativity so we could tap into it when we get older (and by older, I mean adolescence and beyond)?! In toddlerhood, creativity seems to be unrestricted and unlimited. Our teenage daughters currently inhabit the stage where they consciously limit their creativity. They are creative storytellers in writing, music, art, and drama but when they look at a box, they see a box and the many facets and possibilities they may have noticed in and about that box when they were younger are no longer apparent to them. The creative spark has not fully extinguished - after all, when I see I cute top in a store, they'll insist it's a mini-dress - but it has definitely changed. I like to step back every now and then and ask our daughters to look up at the sky and tell me what they see when they look at the clouds (and the answer cannot be clouds) and sometimes we'll point out strangers on the street or in restaurants and make up back-stories for them. I truly believe that people who are able to keep creativity infused in their outlook are ultimately happier people than those who are unable to do so and quite likely more successful as well. <br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://us.macmillan.com/dot/PatriciaIntriago" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvCRGOZ03y20gUwKqDmBRN0wG6QaK3J7bHDqAsZ58oQ6EyGA3BP9G6pWsy-gaIOGKGpaPTAgc2bvSGd7DnKrBMFd-NgOLJi3JD8ZZr40J-Fuvkg_7yIqBNFy3MlnCfS3UmYaV3DLm9kc8/s200/Dot.jpg" width="196" /></a></div>Patricia Intriago's first picture book <a href="http://us.macmillan.com/dot/PatriciaIntriago"><i><b>Dot</b></i></a>, a finalist for the Children's Choice Book Awards 2012 Kindergarten to Second Grade Book of the Year, is a wonderful exploration of creative perception applied to the most basic of shapes. Patricia Intriago is a clever graphic designer whose talent and wit are sure to make you appreciate a seemingly simple shape in a whole new way; many ways, in fact. If you and your child love this book (and, really, what's not to love?), then don't forget to vote for it. Voting for the 2012 Children's Choice Book Awards is now open and you can join the legions of children's book fans already voting for their faves by clicking <a href="http://www.bookweekonline.com/voting">here</a>.Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-13463813209135335502012-03-21T19:01:00.000-07:002012-03-21T19:01:22.316-07:00This little piggie goes...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgt3y04YCrN6eCcRiNahXRXBi1WZrmussWjX5IeUADZmdfY17h3cR9vOP5mHCjVXpgj2oTXcUqd9cEYfsidg-_Ck9MH0kxKyAZx83VMUokPkKUoLd_4Q3IJG4RykUfIRXACQk_M39WrjDc/s1600/clean+hands.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="138" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgt3y04YCrN6eCcRiNahXRXBi1WZrmussWjX5IeUADZmdfY17h3cR9vOP5mHCjVXpgj2oTXcUqd9cEYfsidg-_Ck9MH0kxKyAZx83VMUokPkKUoLd_4Q3IJG4RykUfIRXACQk_M39WrjDc/s200/clean+hands.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>One of our daughters came home from school earlier this year and announced that one of her teachers had decided to stop using shampoo. She wasn't able to provide enough detail about the reasons behind this decision or the alternative method of hair cleansing selected by the teacher so we were unable to seriously assess the merits of this decision. We agreed that it's best to refrain from judgment in circumstances where you're lacking the facts, even in circumstances such as this one that so easily lend themselves to stinkin' jokes and greasy judgments. This reminded me of a humanities class I took in college in which the professor showed a tiny squirt of toothpaste, the size of a baby pea, and insisted that is the amount she used to brush her teeth each day and we should all do the same. Whatever their reasons, people clearly approach matters of hygiene in different ways. Though generally less principled, kids vary in their reactions to cleanliness as well. Many toddlers try to avoid bath time. Maybe it's because it's often the last step before bedtime and they figure it makes sense to get a head start on delaying the process. Maybe it's because some kids are afraid of the water. In our home, bath time was a joyous time in toddlerhood but became a challenge later on. In those days, I am reasonably sure the concern that bath or shower time would conflict with television viewing or game playing was the real issue. As our girls adolesced, they began to appreciate the importance of regular showers and we never have to remind them to take theirs anymore. Deodorant, teethbrushing, hairbrushing and handwashing still require the odd reminders. Gross, I know.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.indiebound.org/book/9780399254253?aff=johnsegal" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhdl8NtbXkgfuh4BK73ULOdGHcUxkRW5j0BLpmA1LaQ38kWvEst2shP4V2my-kOCL0sLFZ1D_dMGBK2evzU_njv_Bv_0RYa6vaQpXTajZ4A89Hv_7pwNGrfNPAi9t0Q-0KXe56u_7figYY/s200/PiratesDontTakeBaths_cover.50115443_std.jpg" width="166" /></a></div>If you're at the stage where the child in your life is trying everything to avoid bath time, try pinning him or her down before bath time and reading John Segal's <a href="http://johnsegal.com/booksbyjohnsegal.html"><b><i>Pirates Don't Take Baths</i></b></a> together. The story presents a fun conversation between a child trying to get out of bath time and a mom who has a quick and clever answer for every excuse. It's pretty much a battle of wits with mother and child being well matched in creativity and the illustrations are so much fun! After a little cuddling followed, of course, by cleansing, you might want to reunite and follow-up by reading the Margaret Wise Brown/Clement Hurd classic, <a href="http://www.harpercollinschildrens.com/books/Runaway-Bunny/?isbn13=9780064430180&tctid=100"><i><b>The Runaway Bunny,</b></i></a> together for a perfect end to a lovely evening. Your child gets to hear another wonderful story and you get to introduce your child to yer another parent who has a quick and clever answer for everything!<br />
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If you and the child in your life love this book, there are a few things you should do. First, take a look at the author's blog and website. Most authors and illustrators have at least one or the other these days and they're often amazing destinations that enable kids to relate reading and fun while they learn about the books, authors and illustrators they love. You never know what you might learn. Had I read through <a href="http://johnsegal.blogspot.com/search?updated-max=2011-11-10T18:28:00-05:00&max-results=7">John Segal's blog</a> before writing this post, I'd have seen that John had declared September 19 to be Talk Like a Pirate Day (in honor of this book) and that would have led me to write an entirely different post because I have a daughter who defaults to pirate-speak with some regularity. No matter! The second thing to do (maybe even the first but I'm trying not to be pushy) is to head on over to the <a href="http://www.bookweekonline.com/voting">Voting Site </a>for the Children's Choice Book Awards and encourage that child to cast a vote. This book is a finalist for Kindergarten to Second Grade Book of the Year. Of course, if you followed my first piece of advice, you'd have headed over to the Voting Site anyway because John Segal has an awesome call to voting action on the homepage of his site and who could resist a precious pig?! Click <a href="http://johnsegal.com/">here</a> to take a look. Happy Voting!<br />
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This is the first post in my quest to blog about each finalist for the 2012 Children's Choice Book Awards. One down, twenty-nine to go. To find out more about the Children's Choice Book Awards, click <a href="http://www.bookweekonline.com/about-CCBAs">here</a>. And to vote, click <a href="http://www.bookweekonline.com/voting">here</a>. And here's a fun fact for you - the award for this category (Kindergarten to 2nd Grade Book of the Year) will be presented at the Children's Choice Book Awards gala on May 7 by Marc Brown, creator of the <a href="http://marcbrownstudios.com/"><b><i>Arthur</i></b></a> books and television series.Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-22169997743459863102012-03-20T17:50:00.001-07:002012-03-20T17:51:29.073-07:00Exercise your right to vote!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.bookweekonline.com/voting" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="80" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZuSeN21HsN1cDzPZSRphb8ldDwMDcF548s6KZ1UkIO3-DDseltGF4qMZClyf2mu8jDaEV6joyZ-bKqU_oWM-BdcII6GX3fr1GzWXa554e3Hyqmau7m0JHkLrpX3gj8slCh6E6O-ZCm2c/s320/CCBA+2012.png" width="320" /></a></div>Last Wednesday, March 14, voting opened for the 5th Annual Children's Choice Book Awards <a href="http://www.bookweekonline.com/voting">here</a>. This program is the only one of its kind. First, in 4 of the 6 categories (Book of the Year for 4 different age groups beginning with Kindergarteners and ending with teens), kids and teens select the finalists. Approximately 20,000 kids and teens from across the country participate in the part of the program. To select the Author of the Year and Illustrator of the Year finalists we review bestseller lists. Second, this is a national program where kids and teens select the winners. Votes have already been submitted by participants in every state in the country (and beyond). We are expecting to receive one million votes this year.<br />
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The program was developed 5 years ago by the Children's Book Council and the literacy foundation Every Child a Reader for a number of reasons.<br />
<ul><li>It makes reading fun and gives kids an easy way to talk about their favorite books with their friends - yes, it makes talking about books fun for kids. </li>
<li>It gives kids and teens a chance to express themselves and let book creators know what works best for them and what they love most. </li>
<li>Because the majority of finalists are selected by kids and teens, it offers a peer-approved reading list.</li>
<li>It is an essential component of the strategy developed to instill a lifelong love of reading in young people, the mission of Every Child a Reader</li>
</ul>If you have children in your life, please encourage them to <a href="http://www.bookweekonline.com/voting">participate</a> in the amazing program. Read with them and ask them about their preferences. If the child in your life is a teen who has no desire to share preferences with you at the moment, consider reading what he or she is reading or read the Teen Book of the Year finalists and get a sense of what moves other teens. It might help you find a conversation starter. So get started. Click <a href="http://www.bookweekonline.com/2012Finalists">here</a> to see the finalists and start reading!<br />
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Beginning tomorrow, each post (and, yes, for those of you doubters, there will be posts to come) will tie one of the thirty finalists to a parent/child issue or story until I've covered them all.<br />
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<div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">The winners of the Children's Choice Book Awards program, by the way, will be announced live at a gala event on May 7 in New York City that will officially kick off Children's Book Week 2012. The 5th Annual gala will be hosted by the award-winning and beloved creator of the <i>Lunch Lady</i> series of graphic novels (not to mention <i>Punk Farm</i>, <i>Ollie</i> and so many more!), <b>Jarrett J Krosoczka</b>. </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black;"> Awards will be presented by iconic authors and illustrators like <b>Marc Brown</b> (<i>Arthur</i>), <b>Mary Pope Osborne</b> (<i>Magic Tree House</i>), <b>Andrew Clements </b>(<i>Frindle</i>) and <b>S.E. Hinton</b> (<i>The Outsiders</i>), <b>Jack Gantos </b>(<i>Dead End in Norvelt)</i> and <b>Chris Raschka</b> (<i>A Ball for Daisy</i>). An Impact award will be presented by National Ambassador for Young People’s Literature <b>Walter Dean Myers</b> to Super Bowl Champion New York Giants’ <b>Justin Tuck</b> in recognition of the important work he has done connecting kids and books through his charity, Tuck’s R.U.S.H. for Literacy. It will be an evening of champions! A video of the awards presentation will be available on May 8 so remember to tune into the <a href="http://www.bookweekonline.com/">Children's Book Week website</a> to see it almost live if you can't be there in person.</span></span></div><div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black;">Rest well, my friends, for tomorrow we start the marathon of Children's Choice Book Awards reading! </span></span></div>Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-63104846848019859542012-02-23T08:35:00.000-08:002012-02-23T08:35:46.582-08:00Separation<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><a href="http://www.tanglewoodbooks.com/penn.html" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaOjT5ciXUy9KmvvE0JBehf21Tdl0GNg6ldGkeK87mVgCWBFXB8_J567lfDBvup_Zv73K0W6JAR7BbSFAbTONOCyhjZtw1IGWeB0_p-JPNUsV9nZZYzVYpq9gvgtZsC9Z1jtKWWIitBBo/s200/Front_Cover_Kissing_Hand.jpg" width="161" /></a>Whether you're a stay-at-home parent or a parent who works outside of the home or somewhere in between, the time comes when you must separate from your child and he or she or they from you. Each child and each parent handles separation in their own way. My parental troubleshooting methods often have me turning to two sources for assistance - books and Tylenol - and when it came to separation, I needed both! Our kids handled separation differently from one another but, in their earliest years, none of them found it particularly easy. Nor did I! A tried and true favorite tool in our household when the girls were younger was Audrey Penn's <a href="http://www.tanglewoodbooks.com/penn.html"><i><b>The Kissing Hand</b></i></a>. This is a precious story about a mother raccoon seeing her son off to Kindergarten and giving him a way to feel close to her when they're apart. Inspired by the tale, when one of our daughter's was having a particularly difficult time separating to start Kindergarten, I kissed her hands in the morning so she could place my kisses on her cheeks throughout the day when she needed them most. We probably should have let the teacher in on the plan because I received a somewhat alarmed call from her informing me that our daughter had been rubbing her hands all over her face all morning and they were concerned she might have a contagious rash or an allergic reaction. Our daughters have all let me know this book was one of their favorites and someone gets weepy every time it's mentioned.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/kiss-box-bonnie-verburg/1101116496" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSbkU9b_L0z16I3XOF9C66Z05KcN-1-qeXC1L6wh3cGG2vCA4MlfQjw3i_5u-5pka4psGrdqHXio7wiPCwT9HqUm3wlrUVE4H5C3-Ecfqfe0xOsRBvQGCvtdIsMyDK6bqBo86U4D2s1lQ/s200/Kiss+Box.JPG" width="190" /></a></div>I recently came upon a new picture book that evoked <a href="http://www.tanglewoodbooks.com/penn.html"><i><b>The Kissing Hand</b></i></a> and all that it has meant to my family. Bonnie Verburg's <a href="http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/kiss-box-bonnie-verburg/1101116496"><i><b>The Kiss Box</b></i></a>, illustrated by Henry Cole, is another story about separation and the love and compassion shared by parent and child. It is the resourceful child, in this case, who comes up with a way the mother and child can hold onto one another's love even when they are apart. Little Bear creates a "Kiss Box" in which he places a hundred kisses for his mother. At his request, she makes one for him too. My kids saw this book on the coffee table recently, read through it and started crying. The tears were brought on by the emotion and the memories - not because the story is sad! On a personal note, I fell in love with this particular book both for the reasons I've already mentioned and because one of our daughters actually did this on her own just a few years ago. My husband Jeff, an attorney, had a big case out of town and had to relocate for a few months. It was an emotional time for all of us and one of our daughters realized that, because the rest of us would be together, the separation was going to be hardest of all on Jeff. She found a small box in which she placed a few private thoughts, sayings and things and gave it to him as a gift, instructing him to look inside whenever he was feeling particularly lonely - to remind him that his family back home loved him and was counting down the days until his return. There's no way around it - kids are special and have enough love to get you through the toughest times. For our part, when we were missing Jeff most, we would cuddle up with out precious dog Lev who we adopted the day he left, who made sure we had many funny stories to share with Jeff every time we spoke and who continues to lick our faces and fill our lives with unconditional love.Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-51072731022896740262012-01-20T11:44:00.000-08:002012-01-20T11:44:44.096-08:00Facebook Fury<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEicbt3FWqp7A8G_Orb8PlfUCk9wWJO0tKbYW_LZBCNlz4veE4svqJ5HIaMos5s3WrCOTANBfASyypYEZBYrqosvazUR5-vi03xS7SHKcyIb3gETzOt1nCF5F0sVbmXyauKzs6VmD2KKUyc/s1600/facebook-icon.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEicbt3FWqp7A8G_Orb8PlfUCk9wWJO0tKbYW_LZBCNlz4veE4svqJ5HIaMos5s3WrCOTANBfASyypYEZBYrqosvazUR5-vi03xS7SHKcyIb3gETzOt1nCF5F0sVbmXyauKzs6VmD2KKUyc/s200/facebook-icon.png" width="200" /></a></div>Friends who have heard my rant about kids on Facebook will be surprised to hear that my position has changed somewhat. My own kids will be especially surprised! I still consider Facebook to be a wicked time suck and I remain convinced that it is a portal to evil and dangers of monstrous proportions but... I'm impressed by the way kids use Facebook to make connections; connections, I'll admit, I used to think lacked substance. Please don't misunderstand me, I don't think having hundreds or thousands of Facebook "friends" has anything to do with making connections. Rather, I'm talking about the fact that our kids check their Facebook pages, become aware of the birthdays of friends and relatives who live far away, and connect with good wishes, happy thoughts and interest. I actually love the fact that our daughters are aware of the things going on in the lives of our extended families and that those connections have become very important to them. Facebook has helped them cultivate relationships and strengthen bonds in spite of itself. Who knew?<br />
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I wish, of course, that this was the end of it but it really is a time suck and it really does open to the door to more harm than was imaginable when I was a kid. Should our daughters read this blog post, it will, of course, be met by the most extreme eye-roll of all time. I am not one to shy away in the face of an eye-roll. Parents have a responsibility to learn as much as they can about Facebook and impart that wisdom to their kids, regardless of whether or not kids' accept the parents' perspective as "wisdom". Here are some of the nuggets my poor, unfortunate offspring have the pleasure of hearing regularly:<br />
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1. If you have a party and then post pics on Facebook for all your "friends" to see, then do so knowing that you are letting certain "friends" know they were not included. While I firmly believe that kids need to learn that not everyone is invited to everything and they need to learn how to cope with not being included, I also believe that you need to own your decisions, including whom you've decided to invite to what and the fact that rubbing someone else's face in it on Facebook is hurtful and very uncool. Many of us try to teach our kids to think before acting and speaking and Facebook is no exception - before posting a pic, consider what message you are sending and what the implications may be. It's no excuse to say "I didn't mean to..." Forewarned, forearmed.<br />
2. What goes on the internet stays on the internet. It can never be erased. And much of what people think is hidden but remains online is ultimately embarrassing, humiliating or devastating to someone or will be at some point.This reality transcends embarrassment today and puts many Facebook users at the mercy of college admission offices and potential future employers because you never know how much they'll vet (note that this employer warning is no exaggeration; when we hire at my office, we immediately look at the Facebook page of every applicant who passes the resume test; many go no further). Word to the wise: at the very least, consider your privacy settings and immediately delete anything questionable or inappropriate posted on your wall.<br />
3. If you are determined to "friend" everyone on earth, then remember who those friends are and keep in mind that they can follow threads of conversations you have with others. Many kids "friend" teachers and friends of their parents and then post with abandon. Eeeeewwwww.<br />
4. Don't hack someone else's Facebook page and post a hacked status message and don't laugh or otherwise encourage others to do this to you. Think about it. <br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.facebook.com/thefutureofus?sk=app_189641911095174" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi58zcmFaGfV0P6hYJlqH70At0Sgc8MVncgtWI1zZTcJYgkv3llrr-c8LsCMl4VdqGMLw8YATGpczARJbDcGSMDwOCn1rh8vAI6RAIRnUT0ckZx_u2JYojVroPUdFp8dO6qDLZMJBte5js/s200/future+of+us.jpg" width="133" /></a></div>I think that's enough for now. Needless to say, there's more to come. So much more. But while I work all that out, here's a fantastic book selection for you and your kids. <a href="http://www.facebook.com/thefutureofus?sk=app_189641911095174"><i><b>The Future of Us</b></i></a> by Carolyn Mackler and Jay Asher is one of the best YA (young adult) books I've read in the last 6 months. Depending on reading level and sophistication, kids as young as 11-ish will love it, all ages of teens will love it and parents of teens will love it too. The book is set in the mid-90s when the internet was just starting to pick up speed and Facebook hadn't been invented yet. Two teens insert an America Online CD-ROM (remember those?!) and end up viewing their Facebook pages 15 years in the future. Once the initial confusion subsides and they come to terms with the fact that they are glimpsing their futures, they also begin to realize that the future changes with every action and reaction in the present. It's a clever and witty and moving tribute to teens, friendship, our grasp of the future and our limited understanding of the technologies available. It's a completely satisfying read!Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-58473074928291053252012-01-03T12:36:00.000-08:002012-01-03T12:36:02.990-08:00All hail the new National Ambassador for Young People's Literature<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLnJyM7USy9PKsF2ztCW-fbZXs75TQR-9muHwwVutje8M8TxZ1Md6d8YFH4PY_Uf2oOp09MmqZ3qoV6GVTgAZeJusWMPUt17yNRZD44Nr4mCMBLVFHgWhTI80wMMODq9KjNCknRLkpgzE/s1600/Head+Shot.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLnJyM7USy9PKsF2ztCW-fbZXs75TQR-9muHwwVutje8M8TxZ1Md6d8YFH4PY_Uf2oOp09MmqZ3qoV6GVTgAZeJusWMPUt17yNRZD44Nr4mCMBLVFHgWhTI80wMMODq9KjNCknRLkpgzE/s200/Head+Shot.jpg" width="150" /></a></div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYhhQCGeI8nvEMkLFKpmoL7KR33Z4utmOzdP7mpATNf5cUD0aK4vQf7jqAP-jcB9QspqoBkOna5DGmPt0soHxZdLxJ1Kk1kFiLFHgwfYn22vfMGYXUu1qwEbjsMYJoQwMeHa71JejA3Hs/s1600/happy-new-year%252B2012.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYhhQCGeI8nvEMkLFKpmoL7KR33Z4utmOzdP7mpATNf5cUD0aK4vQf7jqAP-jcB9QspqoBkOna5DGmPt0soHxZdLxJ1Kk1kFiLFHgwfYn22vfMGYXUu1qwEbjsMYJoQwMeHa71JejA3Hs/s200/happy-new-year%252B2012.jpg" width="200" /></a>Happy New Year! It has been a while since my last post and, in addition to eating well, exercising regularly, losing weight, and yelling less, blogging more frequently is one of my key New Year's resolutions. More important to me than these aforementioned resolutions, though, is to resolve to do my part to make the world a better place. I'm not joking about that. I believe we each have a responsibility to think and act beyond ourselves and our immediate environment and be proactive participants in our communities. I feel like 2012 has gotten off to a good start and I'm very excited to tell you why. If you take a look at the first page of this morning's Arts section in the <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/03/books/walter-dean-myers-ambassador-for-young-peoples-literature.html?pagewanted=1"><i><b>New York Times</b></i></a>, you'll see an article entitled <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/03/books/walter-dean-myers-ambassador-for-young-peoples-literature.html?pagewanted=1">Children's Book Envoy Defines His Mission</a> written by Julie Bosman. As Julie reports, a new National Ambassador for Young People's Literature has been appointed in this country and it's humbling to be part of the team that created this post and makes it all happen. The real work, of course, falls to each Ambassador and Walter Dean Myers is a force to be reckoned with. Walter is among the most prolific and most honored writers of books for young people. Like his Ambassadorial predecessors, Katherine Paterson and Jon Scieszka, Walter brings his unique perspective and charisma to his writing along with a genuine and palpable respect for his young readers. Walter's platform during his two-year term is "Reading is Not Optional". Walter wants people of all ages to recognize that reading is more than a school activity or a leisure activity - rather, reading is as essential to a person's success as eating, breathing and sleeping. Reading is not optional. The personal history and experience with which Walter backs his claims are compelling. His is a voice that generations need to hear and stories that generations need to read. Congratulations Walter Dean Myers and heartfelt congratulations to the young readers who have a new superhero to call their own. Happy New Year to all!<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.harpercollins.com/books/We-America/?isbn=9780060523084" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="182" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjc25jySI_ADmf0Yj6397-R07_0V8HhbbQuvqnjqqLKzgplDkre0-bLjlDJ3YZAXOYZLm1TB8qQo-64HJsjtnPa_3KIb4KSiAmlayMYbgbmjqa_NVOduiGEXu-YqE5Ati9XemQoahq4wKI/s200/we+are+america.jpg" width="200" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.walterdeanmyers.net/biblio.html" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcNW_7Rc1kaS53vkqHqh9z1vKdf5eymMuXCyhVYBr1BjhWjsFdQbaKozVjKYeQppt9vnYNJ7VfJQd_3W1Ov12yRFBWIBgr0GhKHoeEQt6nYPeo06s2portL9DC5lL8txz9Z9BQhM8AYqA/s200/fallujah.png" width="135" /></a><a href="http://www.walterdeanmyers.net/monster.html" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitKxhTSlLHAK9NNp7s6NJywCB6BmyoQICZ1vm5kG5y2LqIGS6V1__yvERlrggypcA9u_UmYRd8GvnzY8RH9tKc35_DbUnTu2Q5NWXIsJLNCVZiB4RX_XgA7jIt_QJkHwFkMznrfQyzr2I/s200/Monster.jpg" width="140" /></a><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Coretta-Scott-Illustrator-Honor-Books/dp/0823415457"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhq5mONDDpm3euyARZYw_rZ91U9iYdnH3vQ4pdBSuw2rvfQqNnmQOk3DtWnD7YRnhXNz8gy8Azg2x2aosqfXoHpbRfxyRHspzbYnrqU0zchZ8is8kCXl6ZXpc3rr5kXcCQpmC6pPBwIDPc/s200/jazz.jpg" width="166" /></a></div>Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-9365573773204965392011-12-12T14:25:00.000-08:002011-12-12T14:25:01.006-08:00The Superparent Complex<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTRr7qRZgINbn6BaqFCRbNncNfCvDtWMI8KqjXergCjhPsRqxaB6lz3mx0sq5GE-An-4Ic-mblJJqAYaPHZZifNDGgIVM0Nc0ZbTNwS09T7U7zzNvVBSJOjLhN8kVTVRersSCpY4yz87A/s1600/supermom2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTRr7qRZgINbn6BaqFCRbNncNfCvDtWMI8KqjXergCjhPsRqxaB6lz3mx0sq5GE-An-4Ic-mblJJqAYaPHZZifNDGgIVM0Nc0ZbTNwS09T7U7zzNvVBSJOjLhN8kVTVRersSCpY4yz87A/s200/supermom2.jpg" width="165" /></a></div>I readily confess that I frequently try to do too much, particularly where my kids are concerned. I can give you all the rationalizations in the world for this but the bottom line is that I'm on a ridiculously competitive quest against myself to prove that kids miss out on nothing when their moms work outside of the home. I firmly believe that proposition to be true and yet I admit that I try to stay a few steps ahead of the inevitable guilt by overcompensating. Just last week, one child let me know she needed 17 red velvet cupcakes for a book talk scheduled to take place at school the next day and one of her sisters called me just before 4:30 pm to let me know that she desperately needed me to pick up a husky hat (a silly hat with a husky/dog head) because she desperately needed it for the very next day. I had already committed to attending a meeting for 10th grade parents at our older daughter's high school that night and knew I wouldn't have time to bake cupcakes so I agreed to buy them on the way home. I laughed at the husky hat request and reminded my darling that I was picking up cupcakes and then going to a meeting and would be happy to deal with the hat request another day. "But I need it for tomorrow..." I could have and should have said "no", "you can't always get what you want when you want it", or "I need a little more notice". Instead I said "I'll do my best but you'll have to live with it if I can't find the hat". She agreed (totally disingenuously, as I later learned). Despite it being a miserable rainy night, I got the cupcakes and I attended the meeting. I visited 4 different stores and never did succeed in finding the hat though. There was a moment there that I felt horrible and unsuccessful because I hadn't accomplished all the tasks on my list. That feeling was quickly replaced by appropriate anger with myself for ever having gotten into this position in the first place and for feeling even the slightest bit as though I'd let anyone down. I was also more than a little peeved with the child who insisted she need that ridiculous hat and that the matter was time-sensitive. At the end of the day, the problem is mine and only mine. Kids need to hear "no" and parents need to be able to say it. My kids only think I can make things like husky hats miraculously appear because I've fostered ludicrous expectations. Silly me - it's so much more important to teach them to manage their own expectations than it is to feed my supermom ego!<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://lisagenova.com/?page_id=7" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhuC1PKLtjAoHCGw6WCOV7B-GGogYJOljJHcHTubR0QRMWzkqyZcNwMlghq8nhAD5FA2xGIKUffA0XsklwcO-IyR-NPKhGDaX_OCv0Z5_VAUrRm4odtC5bwvE1yHJASKm-u1U-EgS2ZdJ4/s200/left+neglected.jpg" width="128" /></a></div>As you probably know, kids' books and movies often depict families where there is no mom except the occasional evil stepmom. For this reason, today's book selection can be found in the adult fiction section of your library or local bookstore - it's Lisa Genova's<a href="http://lisagenova.com/?page_id=7"><i><b> Left Neglected. </b></i></a>So many of us teeter on the brink of total collapse as we try to get through an insanely long daily to-do list This is the story of Sarah Nickerson who teeters on the brink and then falls off the proverbial cliff. One minute Sarah barely has time to breathe and, in the next split second, she sustains a serious brain injury and her life is changed forever. The scary part of the story is that it could happen to any of us. However, I prefer to take away the more reassuring message that change can be good and that challenge leads to opportunity.Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-75871092687854751012011-12-07T07:05:00.000-08:002011-12-07T07:05:08.451-08:00Because I said so!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYncWyFr2Oxl04KV45N2iDofTg_3lDD4sWBJOIDHu1RMxJmPQoHeqOY4MI8ipSILfE6QjNmPWQVDUWtKd6tnKKsgGjWO5Mzm0ZZ74irGXP2-0VeY2AbVWECt5kWe6ApANUXzhtNM6B1VE/s1600/because_i_said_so.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="151" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYncWyFr2Oxl04KV45N2iDofTg_3lDD4sWBJOIDHu1RMxJmPQoHeqOY4MI8ipSILfE6QjNmPWQVDUWtKd6tnKKsgGjWO5Mzm0ZZ74irGXP2-0VeY2AbVWECt5kWe6ApANUXzhtNM6B1VE/s200/because_i_said_so.JPG" width="200" /></a></div>Parents must sometimes make decisions in the best interests of their child or family that the child does not support. Most of us recognize that you can't always please your children (Ha! Remember, I have 3 teenager girls, making this the understatement of the century!) but many of us still try, on some level, to reason with our children and make them understand why we have made the decisions we have made. Speaking for myself, I think I do this primarily out of respect for my kids and belief in their ability to understand reason and secondarily because, on some probably unattainable level, I'm hoping for a break through and a child that embraces the decision they initially abhorred. Ridiculous, I know! If all else fails, I am a proponent of "because I said so". It is a gift to parents that should neither be undervalued nor avoided. Sometimes, it's all you've got.The bottom line is that, as parents, we sign on for a lot and wear many hats but none is a "cool" hat or a "best friend to our kids" hat or even a "popular with our kids" hat. While we may change hats regularly or wear many simultaneously, it seems to me that parents may never shed the "best interests of my child" hat or "strong advocate for my child" hat and with each of those hats comes the responsibility of paying close attention and sometimes making tough decisions.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUDNkT-Il-lhklP1pWDykzbeq2qQ9xG5uI-9m3Who_2bSL9rWjgh0dNGmrwK-2p14u95a7hcUq2t2Mz_v1bMUxzM6iqjR3aoIugsa8B9Ou5ak6Ewkd9Hln_3AGL_0lVfzQmovBRw2gKL0/s1600/new+school.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="112" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUDNkT-Il-lhklP1pWDykzbeq2qQ9xG5uI-9m3Who_2bSL9rWjgh0dNGmrwK-2p14u95a7hcUq2t2Mz_v1bMUxzM6iqjR3aoIugsa8B9Ou5ak6Ewkd9Hln_3AGL_0lVfzQmovBRw2gKL0/s200/new+school.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>A friend recently told me that she is thinking about moving. She is a single mom of two middle graders and has decided that at this time in her life, she and her children need to live closer to her aging mother. She knows her children will not greet news of their impending move gleefully but she also knows that she is the decision-maker for the family and that children are adaptable, even when they're certain they are not. She also knows that the benefits of the proposed move will far outweigh the costs. I admire this woman greatly. It's not as easy as it may sound to put your child's feelings (and even protests) aside to lay down the law and force everyone to step in line. Not too long ago, Jeff and I agreed that it was time for one of our children to change schools. The child in question has never been one to embrace change and she felt safe, secure and extremely comfortable where she was. She hated the idea of leaving her school and made her feelings abundantly clear but we knew that the change was necessary and that she would thrive in a different environment. When we took her around to see different schools, she did what she could to sabotage potential admission but was admitted to several schools in spite of herself. She made no secret of the fact that she was furious with us and it would take a long time for her to forgive us (if ever). Six weeks into her new school, she let us know how grateful and happy she was to be there. We agreed that as soon as she felt she loved her new school, then she could buy a school sweatshirt. By the end of her first year, she had a whole school wardrobe.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.randomhouse.com/book/204555/neville-by-norton-juster" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhkl_S-RUKNeTE7zID8tYeX6TfG8wBRP51ZX-ITvt1_ONgbzJy5bvCHcIZg_3pbanHvbe-RBOp9MW31BeqwamoI3evqX8bdRfZXmnW6wDWFYA6s4cq5qHZnT7MUD6-nIlDwGwfBhIi8kgA/s1600/Neville.jpg" /></a></div>Making tough, frequently unpopular, decisions like moving homes or changing schools are possible when they're thoughtfully considered and necessary. Kids do adapt and when they do, no matter how fierce their initial resistance, they may even bask in the reassurance that someone really is looking out for them. And their resourcefulness to deal with change may surprise you. If you're contemplating a big change and want to help your youngster cope, consider picking up a copy of <a href="http://www.randomhouse.com/book/204555/neville-by-norton-juster"><i><b>Neville</b></i></a> by <span class="ptBrand">Norton Juster (author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0394815009/ref=cm_cr_asin_lnk"><i><b>The Phantom Tollbooth</b></i></a>), illustrated by G. Brian Karas. The title character in this story moves to a new town and creatively gets his name known.</span>Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-88696008007076293152011-12-05T19:55:00.000-08:002011-12-06T05:41:47.104-08:00My mom went to _________ and all she got me was this lousy t-shirt.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Outsiders-S-Hinton/dp/014038572X" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiuhkQ6FWXQx6clLi1HajAJjfE-rAuoM4Enjffb6pwSgCPOkI6zkciIVnM278p0uRGSIH_fJ9OEmKldgSAYoKy7PTjg1ffH666mb1Nhhx-Cnure-h-on6Rl9TgdjoPDgROwC2wTy05sWhM/s1600/the+outsiders.jpg" /></a></div>On my way home a couple of weeks ago, I slipped into <a href="http://www.shakeandco.com/">Shakespeare & Co.</a>, a bookstore on Lexington Avenue between 68th and 69th Streets in Manhattan. I love this store. Sometimes I take a particular subway route home after work just so I can stop by this treasure trove and see what they've got. My visits are part field research so I know which children's and young adult titles bookstores are betting on and part me-time pleasure. On this particular visit, I was lured in by a series of t-shirts hanging in the window, each with a different title of a classic novel. One featured title was S.E. Hinton's <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Outsiders-S-Hinton/dp/014038572X"><i><b>The Outsiders</b></i></a>. This particular book has special status in my home. I loved it when I was younger and appreciated it in a whole new way when one of our 13 year-olds read it for school last year and became obsessed. I would bet that when she's my age, if asked what book from her youth changed her life, her answer would unequivocally be <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Outsiders-S-Hinton/dp/014038572X"><i><b>The Outsiders</b></i></a>. How exciting for both of us that we will meet author S.E. Hinton at the next Children's Choice Book Awards gala on May 7, 2012! But I digress. The t-shirt.... I walked in and walked straight up to the front counter to ask where I could find <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Outsiders-S-Hinton/dp/014038572X"><i><b>The Outsiders</b></i></a> t-shirt. I proceeded to tell her how my daughter was going to flip when she saw this. The woman behind the counter and her friend who had been hovering nearby congratulated me on being such a good mom because only good parents could raise a child that would get excited about t-shirts based on books. I'll admit it. I was feeling pretty good. Just that day Thomas Friedman has a piece published in the New York Times asking, "<a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/11/20/opinion/sunday/friedman-how-about-better-parents.html">How About Better Parents</a>?". Friedman insisted that parents more focused on their children's education could make a huge difference in a student's achievement. He went on to discuss a study by which the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development (O.E.C.D) conducted exams as part of the Program for International Student Assessment, or PISA, which tests 15-year-olds in the world’s leading industrialized nations on their reading comprehension and ability to use what they’ve learned in math and science to solve real problems. Among many interesting and thought-provoking findings was the clear conclusion that reading to your children on a regular base when they are young and parental involvement (like asking your child about his or her day) make a huge difference in terms of their abilities and accomplishments in later years. These propositions seem a little anti-climactic at first glance and then a little more shocking when you face the fact that many parents still don't get it. I'm not sure how you go about changing that since even a compelling article like Friedman's is likely only going to be read by those parents who are already reading to their children and connecting with them. Yet, how can we do anything other than keep trying to spread the word. Books and reading make a difference; engaged and involved parents change the game.<br />
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Recently at a parent grade meeting, the seventh grade dean at Riverdale Country School described the multiple facets of the community service program in the seventh grade. She explained that at the homebase level, the smaller groups of kids would select and devise their activities and that she was hoping to steer them away from the traditional bake sale. Bake sales and lemonade stands are time-honored, tried-and-true traditions but this year's seventh grade is encouraged to think more broadly and consider programs that require some engagement in the community they are seeking to assist beyond presenting a check or an envelope with cash - like painting a school or community center or reading to younger children or donating books, toys and clothing. So much good work to be done!<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Report-Card-Andrew-Clements/dp/0689845154" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnGo1c1mDaoBJVcTjmgzDbdw8LbBYwOXXT8CtkWpPBySH5qpKef0behDswuGk-trq7MJu_YSiSkg7SjasbzOcVVJg77MaHSTbqtjKatAKxtQfGyBpNNbxsdX7IvIWJ40t0CaxbiCWMGc4/s1600/the+report+card.jpg" /></a></div>Since our oldest daughter brought home the masterpiece known as <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Frindle-Andrew-Clements/dp/0689818769/ref=pd_sim_b_7"><i><b>Frindle</b></i></a> home several years ago, I have been a huge fan of author Andrew Clements (who, incidentally, has recently agreed to present an award at the 2012 Children's Choice Book Awards and I'm so excited that I'll be meeting him in May). He's one of those awesome young-middle grade authors who has a book for everything and they all extol the power of children to make a difference. Pick up a copy of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Report-Card-Andrew-Clements/dp/0689845154"><i><b>The Report Card</b></i></a> by Andrew Clements, illustrated by the amazing Brian Selznick, and you (and your child, duh!) will not be disappointed.Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-25029076597168418102011-11-15T14:50:00.000-08:002011-11-15T14:50:14.738-08:00You're on my list!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBUVv5iqt-kNj6Y2X9fuM7PeKnW1e2w_K4uOZ33jNWPiRzg-CTak21ytumngGMGQYzO7Zg50iKwYUhM3fMbYRGtMQmSGwxdKHZSSH3Lye9YbnY9ssVxnOnWsIlkQPEFD2IJok9m7kpNT4/s1600/on+my+list.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBUVv5iqt-kNj6Y2X9fuM7PeKnW1e2w_K4uOZ33jNWPiRzg-CTak21ytumngGMGQYzO7Zg50iKwYUhM3fMbYRGtMQmSGwxdKHZSSH3Lye9YbnY9ssVxnOnWsIlkQPEFD2IJok9m7kpNT4/s200/on+my+list.jpg" width="198" /></a></div>I recently had a parenting breakthrough and I'm eager to share my genius with you. It emanated from the fact that, at 45, I have a lousy memory. When I complain to my children that they treat me like a slave, a bank or a non-person, they always ask for examples. I am no longer able to back up my claims with evidence on the spot so I've had to get creative. I let the girls know that I am now keeping a list. All behavior that disrespects me, together with the name of the perpetrator and the date of the offense, goes on the list. Here's the amazing thing - for an entire week after I first referenced the list, there were almost no offenses at all. The list was an awesome deterrent. Who knew?! It wasn't until the second week that the existence of the list was even questioned and it wasn't until the third week that anyone thought to ask about the consequences of landing on the list. The list is, in fact, real. It's in a small green notebook that I carry around. Part of the notebook is reserved for sweet and funny things the kids do so I can recall them easily when we play "remember when"; part of the book contains a running list of things I need to pick up and attend to (ranging from buying more hair conditioner to a growing list of bar and bat mitzvah gifts that we have not yet sent); part of the book just has work notes and thoughts; and part of the book houses my list under the heading "Disrespect Examples". I used to panic if I couldn't find my Blackberry because it contains all my contacts and my calendar but my green notebook has become far more valuable!<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgSPpDub7njRztwgrKmBgaSdFiHZs4R-c8rVRdGvA2zKWyN-FqcmTW4ompumPL3ukd5eNSk6BZ5zqngVoQoc5JFDb7MGxRE8dHvDdeNPwnOyiQ5tP65dxgQV7uSuv0btvDMABbSTQa3fO4/s1600/list.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="186" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgSPpDub7njRztwgrKmBgaSdFiHZs4R-c8rVRdGvA2zKWyN-FqcmTW4ompumPL3ukd5eNSk6BZ5zqngVoQoc5JFDb7MGxRE8dHvDdeNPwnOyiQ5tP65dxgQV7uSuv0btvDMABbSTQa3fO4/s200/list.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>Keeping this list suits me for several reasons. First, of course, it's a vital memory refresher. Second, though, and just as important, is that it's motivated me to share a pet peeve of mine with our daughters and discuss it. I think we probably all know people who create mental lists of the wrongs that are done to them. I hate these lists because the keeper never discloses that they exist (and more often than not acts insulted if you suggest that it does) and because lists like these never seem to have a statute of limitations. There's really nothing at all to be gained by reminding someone of something they did to you 10 years ago or even one year ago. I want our daughters to be able to communicate effectively and problem-solve in the moment when something or someone affronts them. I do not want our girls to grow up harboring resentment; rather, I want them to be able to confront with empathy, integrity and class and then move on. As for my list, there is no consequence to be on the list other than the consequence that would generally attach to bad behavior and the very fact of being on the list. At the end of each week, the list in my notebook is disposed of so that each week can begin with a clean page. Our kids have been pretty clear - they do not want to be on the list.<br />
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<i>In the interest of full disclosure, I am pretty sure that my husband of nearly 20 years will laugh when he reads this blog post and find some nice euphemism for "hypocrite". I don't think I ever make Jeff feel like I'm keeping a list of his historic faults to use like ammunition but he wouldn't be lying if he told you that I do sometimes tend to re-hash the past. With him. Only with him. I think. But I'm working on it. </i><br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.harpercollins.com/browseinside/index.aspx?isbn13=9780061664656" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjM3aUSfs3cAqFu3BAezFdNW6m42WCcUdBCC1jNLqAfGYmkvCOkLdRTY_gKr3ti-pQUt_2PlN8SCrRc9QdiVjsbh8FwyirwZ8y7Xd1M54kTXAUQiUSvQVD46t2qZn9TfkNLdA3ajGjvXXM/s200/13Words.jpg" width="158" /></a></div>Back to lists. I have two fabulous books to recommend for two different age group both written and illustrated by the same dynamic team but you might not know that from their covers. Whew! For the younger set I suggest the irresistible <a href="http://www.harpercollins.com/browseinside/index.aspx?isbn13=9780061664656"><i><b>13 Words</b></i></a> by Lemony Snicket, illustrated by Maira Kalman. The list is awesome: 1. Bird 2. Despondent 3. Cake 4. Dog 5. Busy 6. Convertible 7. Goat 8. Hat 9. Haberdashery 10. Scarlet 11. Baby 12. Panache 13. Mezzo-Soprano - but you'll have to read the book to learn more!<br />
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In honor of my daughters, today's music playlist has only one song:<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3WT4HR_rDJU"><u><b> So Much Better</b></u></a> from Legally Blonde on Broadway has been playing in my head over and over as I wrote this post:<br />
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Is that my name up on that list?<br />
Does someone know that I exist?<br />
Is this a mistake?<br />
Am I even Awake?<br />
Pinch me now to make sure...<br />
OW!<br />
Yes that's my name in black and white<br />
maybe I'm doing something right<br />
WOW! I feel so much better<br />
Than before!Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-72713106494666007832011-11-11T11:43:00.000-08:002011-11-11T11:44:55.586-08:00Bonjour et Bienvenue!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDOx9JXnAc1_tDSh1K61-ql_iG4iJwCTA5ZUtRlPVzps1xpwhdHKjA_RJmLCUsjh-1WUQ1S0VcZzrF3OzCt53mrcNwUDVdAasXUub3Vul3Cr3YrPHavBWJRopNdK4QtgkPFwx-yHuItco/s1600/France.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"></a><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDOx9JXnAc1_tDSh1K61-ql_iG4iJwCTA5ZUtRlPVzps1xpwhdHKjA_RJmLCUsjh-1WUQ1S0VcZzrF3OzCt53mrcNwUDVdAasXUub3Vul3Cr3YrPHavBWJRopNdK4QtgkPFwx-yHuItco/s1600/France.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"></a><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDOx9JXnAc1_tDSh1K61-ql_iG4iJwCTA5ZUtRlPVzps1xpwhdHKjA_RJmLCUsjh-1WUQ1S0VcZzrF3OzCt53mrcNwUDVdAasXUub3Vul3Cr3YrPHavBWJRopNdK4QtgkPFwx-yHuItco/s1600/France.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"></a><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDOx9JXnAc1_tDSh1K61-ql_iG4iJwCTA5ZUtRlPVzps1xpwhdHKjA_RJmLCUsjh-1WUQ1S0VcZzrF3OzCt53mrcNwUDVdAasXUub3Vul3Cr3YrPHavBWJRopNdK4QtgkPFwx-yHuItco/s1600/France.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDOx9JXnAc1_tDSh1K61-ql_iG4iJwCTA5ZUtRlPVzps1xpwhdHKjA_RJmLCUsjh-1WUQ1S0VcZzrF3OzCt53mrcNwUDVdAasXUub3Vul3Cr3YrPHavBWJRopNdK4QtgkPFwx-yHuItco/s200/France.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>I apologize for the lapse since my last blog post. I apologize mostly to my mother who worries that something is wrong when I haven't posted in a while. Nothing is wrong. All is good. Like most people I know, though, my life is a spectrum of varying levels of insanity and chaos and when my schedule hits the extreme end of the spectrum, I start dropping balls. Today, I'm picking them up.<br />
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A few weeks ago, upon posting my most recent past blog post, I fully expected to post daily from that day on and chronicle our family's 10-day experience hosting a foreign exchange student. The whirlwind of activity that began around 11 pm on Tuesday, October 25th threw me for a loop and resulted in a change of plans. Our student left last Friday, though - just in time for the rest of us to rally behind Jeff who, superhumanly, ran the NYC marathon for the third time on Sunday - and now I'm back to recap. I should start by acknowledging that we won the foreign exchange student jackpot. Our 13-year old young lady from Bordeaux, France was intelligent, interested, interesting, fun, kind and exceptionally polite. It was a pleasure to have her in our home and to see our city through her eyes. I expected the experience to be a positive one for our family and hoped that our children would benefit greatly from the experience. It was and they did. We all did. I will admit, though, that I didn't fully realize how demanding this adventure would be (for me, I mean). It's not easy for anyone to be "on" all the time and, as much as I appreciated the opportunity to practice speaking French, it's is particularly difficult to be "on" in a language other than your mother tongue. Our daughter, with whom the exchange student was paired, was performing in her school play (which was awesome) and mending a badly sprained ankle during the visit, which made things more challenging than they might have otherwise been. In addition, our daughter does not speak a word of French. None of our kids do. And that was a challenge as well. Still, on the first night, when we all sat down to dinner together, somehow teenage girls from different worlds, speaking different languages, were able to communicate the fact that mean girls exist in all of their schools and none of them had any desire to be part of "that" crowd. It was fascinating and fabulous.<br />
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The experience really did teach everyone to be a little more sensitive and a little more flexible. It also taught me that, in an effort to make our guest feel comfortable and make my own family look good, I am perfectly capable of not yelling at my kids for 10 whole days. C'est bon!<br />
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If , like me, you are intrigued by Siddhartha Mukherjee's<a href="http://books.simonandschuster.com/Emperor-of-All-Maladies/Siddhartha-Mukherjee/9781439107959"> book</a> and like the idea of offering your child something to read that may invite discussion, may I suggest <a href="http://www.houghtonmifflinbooks.com/schmidt/"><i><b>Okay for Now</b></i></a> by Gary Schmidt? Seriously, it's sooooooo good. This ambitious young adult novel seems like it could work for anyone roughly 10 years old and up (way up). It runs through a multitude of themes and happenings and seamlessly weaves together so many different story threads, including one about cancer. If parallel reading doesn't work for you, then you and the children in your life may just want to read <a href="http://www.houghtonmifflinbooks.com/schmidt/"><i><b>Okay for Now</b></i></a> together.Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-55883451704851283542011-10-19T20:15:00.000-07:002011-10-20T15:56:18.822-07:00A trip down grandparent lane<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjqWqilvr85X2tGWXeHolwo7cmeHS9EX9UujCaxVzUiaSHzAbUQ3R8XbxA5XXNAPxHBwk5GZzrE-0rKaji-YRlFpf-gQnS6NZjTA8pyS_s916Zm4x8uKXMqdZIOylBZfftI3i64bNzJtVg/s1600/grandparents.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjqWqilvr85X2tGWXeHolwo7cmeHS9EX9UujCaxVzUiaSHzAbUQ3R8XbxA5XXNAPxHBwk5GZzrE-0rKaji-YRlFpf-gQnS6NZjTA8pyS_s916Zm4x8uKXMqdZIOylBZfftI3i64bNzJtVg/s200/grandparents.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>I was very fortunate growing up to develop a close bond with my grandparents. I always felt special in their eyes and I always felt cherished. My grandparents were wonderful storytellers who used to regale us with their stories. I've forgotten the details of so many of the stories but I vividly remember the way my grandparents would coax stories out of one another and nudge and wink. And I remember feeling surprised at some point when I realized that they had experienced so many adventures and lived through so much before I was even born. I remember wanting the stories to go on forever. Beyond being my amazing and beloved grandparents, they were such interesting people.<br />
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I am deeply appreciative of the years I had with my grandparents and equally appreciative of the fact that my children know and love their four grandparents. Our kids love to hear stories about Jeff's and my childhood, about our brothers and about our parents. They particularly love hearing about the first time their grandfathers met their grandmothers and the courting that ensued. I hope their interest in learning about the individuals who regally wear the grandparent crowns in their lives never wanes. <br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.laurenmyracle.com/yummy-books/shine" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjZq7tFIDZ2mHcvQ5q9xkY_aLSUFOd2ZSpYtcz7ynci74ncp7DQyxLcFOCcjd2QjIwTtFEcbI40P-IHcMN-V51Sk0tPmv84h7ld7VYzH5fIX5dxT8WyZzH-hfYWR4ezR1pIS2SB-hU3KI/s200/Shine.jpg" width="130" /></a></div>Attention in my industry over the last week has been focused on what may go down in children's book publishing history as the National Book Awards Debacle of 2011. Early last week, the National Book Foundation (NBF) notified a select group of authors that they are finalists for the coveted National Book Award. By mid-week, the list of finalists was announced publicly. After the public announcement was made, the NBF people realized that they'd made a mistake. They had notified author Lauren Myracle that her book <a href="http://www.laurenmyracle.com/yummy-books/shine"><i><b>Shine</b></i></a> was a finalist in the Young People's Literature category when they had meant to include Franny Billingsley’s book, <a href="http://www.frannybillingsley.com/chime.html"><i><b>Chime</b></i></a>. Bear in mind that this is not a post about reading ability or reading comprehension or proofreading or even the ridiculousness of a particular mistake in the first place. After congratulating Lauren and then discovering an error, the NBF chose not to swallow their error but instead to let the author and the public know they had made an error. Necessary disclosure? I think not. They bittersweetly let Lauren know that they had made a mistake but that they had decided to keep both her book and <a href="http://www.frannybillingsley.com/chime.html"><i><b>Chime</b></i></a> as finalists, on the merits. Had the story ended there, it might have been a little bumpy but it would have been a happy one. Not so. The error and the proposed solution were debated publicly over the next few days. By the end of the week, the NBF had the nerve to ask Lauren Myracle to withdraw from National Book Award consideration in order to preserve the integrity of the award and the judges' decision. Oy! Integrity?! It used to be one of my favorite words! So Lauren Myracle withdrew from 2011 National Book Award consideration. She did so gracefully and brilliantly. Her book <a href="http://www.laurenmyracle.com/yummy-books/shine"><i><b>Shine</b></i></a> centers on the wrenching aftermath of a hate crime against a gay teen, and following her withdrawal, the NBF announced that “At her suggestion we will be pleased to make a $5,000 donation to the Matthew Shepard Foundation in her name.” The Matthew Shepard Foundation is a charity focused on respecting human dignity among young people. Bravo Lauren Myracle!<br />
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I want my children to understand all the elements of this story that were wrong and hurtful. I want them to be aware of the vital point that the NBF seemed to have forgotten - at the center of this controversy is and was a person; in this case, a woman who by all accounts is a treasure and is an indisputably cherished author of books for our young people. I want them to appreciate how one person can make a mistake that can steamroll out of control but that they had choices and opportunities and could have handled things differently. And I want them to admire the grace and humility with which a person can choose to deal with the mistakes and bad acts of another. <br />
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Playlist for today's post<br />
1. Let the sun SHINE, Hair<br />
2. Nobody's Perfect, Hannah Montana<br />
3. Miracles, Pet Shop BoysRobin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-64117516856887673362011-10-06T12:21:00.000-07:002011-10-07T07:30:39.700-07:00You've got the whole world in your hands; the whole wide world<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCkU8Rtj6FsDgj7AJxUjh9w1KuVLY0v8v9ewSQP0uIWncfyTnquO9XQs3d8adFw5L6LuOLGTavJs13Gh0phzxSYGy6jEtIaw0S5QqbE7sTKtHtW6unX8ll6ZMxpaYPRVx8UjqXQLESeNw/s1600/thinking+globally.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCkU8Rtj6FsDgj7AJxUjh9w1KuVLY0v8v9ewSQP0uIWncfyTnquO9XQs3d8adFw5L6LuOLGTavJs13Gh0phzxSYGy6jEtIaw0S5QqbE7sTKtHtW6unX8ll6ZMxpaYPRVx8UjqXQLESeNw/s200/thinking+globally.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>A dear member of my staff is going to crack up when she reads this post and she should know that her email yesterday inspired the topic. The topic is globalization.<br />
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In selecting middle and high schools for our children, Jeff and I made a point of listening to the way the different schools expressed their plans for integrating this notion into their curriculum and the consciousness of their students. In the earlier school years, the focus is more on teaching a child to participate in a world where they are not alone and not the center. In the upper grades, students start to get a more vivid picture of the global landscape and, hopefully, a sense of their place in it and the opportunities it presents them. Our children attend the Hewitt School and Riverdale Country School in New York City and we are impressed by the efforts both schools make to get kids thinking globally and acting both locally and globally.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.mattphelan.com/ATW.html" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiM5LYt7Odxuo8i5-JW1XhB4dXdFkvVq-CByd4S02XfTyWTV2pF-m6F4WjyQkplCJ7T6qvZHxsYSq8FfLvxY_ZNQ59fgc9yXC4kOd9KGE7w9lZKqFr24DEusaSZDUA1-ghgRBU5ZDlLAng/s200/around+the+world.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>In honor of the world, take a look at Matt Phelan's <a href="http://www.mattphelan.com/ATW.html"><i><b>Around The World</b></i></a>. In graphic novel format, Phelan tells the stories of Thomas Stevens, Nellie Bly and Joshua Slocum and their adventures as they traveled around the world. Their journeys all took place in the late 19th century and were inspired by Jules Verne's novel <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Around_the_World_in_Eighty_Days"><i><b>Around the World in 80 Days</b></i></a>. Nellie Bly's tour was, in fact, a race against the very novel that set her story in motion. She was determined to travel the world in less than 80 days and was delayed by a request from Jules Verne himself for a visit when she came to town. The stories are fascinating and the illustrations are full of feeling, enabling the reader to peer into the emotions of the intrepid explorers. This book publishes next week, on October 11, to be exact, and is a great addition to a global library. And when you're in the bookstore or trolling around Amazon on October 11, be sure to pick up a copy of Jarrett Krosoczka's new masterpiece, <a href="http://www.studiojjk.com/"><i><b>Ollie</b></i></a>, the delightful and hysterically funny story of a purple elephant who just wants a place to call home and a family to love. Really, is that too much to ask?!Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-23093398225569137362011-09-28T13:32:00.000-07:002011-09-28T13:32:47.267-07:00Wake Up!!!!!!!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFY9mjVfMDKG9ge1hVUfvTkYbJv1xmYpcjoxhGt1puRV1JgrY9or02XMs3lg-nuPBPEYAuIGwQJsdVacsliQRpQrn5FuRStyJlzmoVl5Sx-JLena9BlP-5-bYUpmXCyAJZ9IEXIBUdxSc/s1600/wake+up+early.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFY9mjVfMDKG9ge1hVUfvTkYbJv1xmYpcjoxhGt1puRV1JgrY9or02XMs3lg-nuPBPEYAuIGwQJsdVacsliQRpQrn5FuRStyJlzmoVl5Sx-JLena9BlP-5-bYUpmXCyAJZ9IEXIBUdxSc/s200/wake+up+early.jpg" width="188" /></a></div><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Not-Going-Today-Beginner-Books/dp/0394892178" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGUirG0ZLl9nNMAGnvIhbhJxAFTmj0SqXd2183Bd-hun1ErjgdZxzSEWsc_JMspcFgjbxY1bbvLJqnjYfMlLZZHas-ttyNKt-4PXB6tL09qSMmMFBZhsRUzZoC3ADCGTVFD1hbpPkZxJY/s200/I+am+not+going+to+get+up+today.jpg" width="146" /></a><br />
Morning time at our home is not pretty. I begin the process of waking the girls up at 6:30 a.m. and it's a rare morning that I don't feel like like pulling my hair out at some point during the process. In fairness, I should not be lumping the three of them together as if to suggest that they behave similarly in this regard. They don't. One of the three is a pleasure to wake up. I walk in, lovingly call her name and she rolls over and opens her eyes. It would be perfect if a smile then spread across her face but perfection is over-rated. One of her sisters grunts and growls a lot when I wake her up and it takes a few minutes before I am assured that she's awake but it's not too bad. Then there's "the one". There always is, isn't there? That would be the one they make films about; the one who makes me think my life is like the movie Groundhog Day because I re-live the same experience every 24 hours. I kiss her cheek, I kiss her forehead, I gently ask her to wake up, I begin to shout "wake up" in her ear, I tickle her, I yell louder, I beg, I plead, I yell some more. To no avail. She won't budge. I've put ice cubes down her back and, I confess, I've given her wedgies. She burst out laughing the first time I gave her a wedgie and then it never worked again. I threaten, I bargain and I bribe. Eventually she rolls over, tells me she wants to sleep more and grudgingly pulls herself out of bed. She holds all the cards. If I don't go through all the motions, she would happily stay in bed all day long. Since that's not an acceptable alternative, we do our dance. She reminds me a little of the protagonist in Dr. Seuss'<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Not-Going-Today-Beginner-Books/dp/0394892178"><i><b> I Am Not Going To Get Up Today</b></i></a> who says, ""The alarm can ring. The birds can peep. My bed is warm. My pillow's deep. Today's the day I'm going to sleep!" <br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.durgabernhard.com/item.php?type=book&id=1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1470qcbqti0LIFHF0CJyWawHZeQResQvvG-gnHzHTTCGpeaIJ7aB7j8i7v0Tk8xAdV67r6_DB0KfyUTWNh85D9bLKt9t30T8gG4c5Mk796OEtXV7lxU4CXOjAZrMnJJhtK5WvRqBIgsM/s1600/WhileYouAreSleeping.jpg" /></a></div>She insists she's tired because I wake her up too early but I'm convinced the problem is that she goes to sleep too late. She has a 9:30 bedtime but tries to extend it every night. There's always an excuse. When she was younger, she was one of those children who hated the thought of fun happening without her. Maybe she's still wondering if the party really gets started after the lights go out. Maybe it does. Take a look at Durga Bernhard's <a href="http://www.durgabernhard.com/item.php?type=book&id=1"><i><b>While You Are Sleeping: A Lift-the-Flap Book of Time Around the World</b></i></a>. The book opens with a mom reading a bedtime story to her child and considers what people in different parts of the world are doing at the very same time. What a great way for kindergarteners to learn about different time zones. Off course, then they'll never want to go to sleep because somewhere there really is a party going on at bedtime!<br />
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<b>Playlist for today's post:</b><br />
1. A Day in The Life by the Beatles<br />
2. The Lazy Song by Bruno Mars<br />
3. Sun Comes Up, It's Tuesday Morning by the Cowboy Junkies<br />
4. I Need Some Sleep by the EelsRobin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-52591940748068419162011-09-27T07:39:00.000-07:002011-09-27T07:39:13.583-07:00When your child's school calls<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhV1wAAchy80yqhGumLQZya91PZT0fB2l7yhMqKMUbSEh1gl9MGof4TlJwqCrPXhtehadbdXLUaaPuAAtlYOU1jgfcDmw2oTjY7bf8NLsw1Ik9CUnaNfOr-bdygcdRdFTa1FIXPTkhdfcw/s1600/First+aid+kit.gif" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhV1wAAchy80yqhGumLQZya91PZT0fB2l7yhMqKMUbSEh1gl9MGof4TlJwqCrPXhtehadbdXLUaaPuAAtlYOU1jgfcDmw2oTjY7bf8NLsw1Ik9CUnaNfOr-bdygcdRdFTa1FIXPTkhdfcw/s200/First+aid+kit.gif" width="183" /></a></div>When you get a call from your child's school, other than the customary check-in call in the early grades, it's almost never good news. I say almost because there are indeed those rare teachers who call (even in the middle and upper grades) to let you know that your child did something awesome. The Hewitt school in New York City deserves a shout-out in this regard (and so does our daughter who is a student there). Last year, we received calls from two of our daughter's teachers who seemed genuinely delighted with something she had accomplished at school. In my experience, this is rare. Academics aside, one of those sentences most parents hate to hear when they answer the phone during school hours is "Hello, this is the nurse from X's school." At least when the teachers call, they generally assure you off the bat that your child is physically okay. When the nurse or nurse-substitute calls (never take for granted the fact that your child's school may have a nurse; many don't), they're not. Or at least they claim not to be.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifK32opd1sRIdfz5pzVCZvuVLZzELEe0KsI6jsVMHvVOxgtWNdyeQkbaJev7E3KaQWtuRIRcJu_0QveXYCYRACOHHUON9sSzxU4sUAG-qnFBesPauXtOl4ZtRDCuOU1U5WhLFB8daVfYU/s1600/pain+chart.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="116" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifK32opd1sRIdfz5pzVCZvuVLZzELEe0KsI6jsVMHvVOxgtWNdyeQkbaJev7E3KaQWtuRIRcJu_0QveXYCYRACOHHUON9sSzxU4sUAG-qnFBesPauXtOl4ZtRDCuOU1U5WhLFB8daVfYU/s200/pain+chart.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>Last Monday, I received such a call. The nurse proceeded to tell me that my child had fallen down the stairs and hurt her foot. I don't mean to sound cold but my first instinct was to laugh it off. Anyone who knows our kids well knows that they often walk with their heads in the clouds and are easily distracted by conversation and shiny objects. As a result, bumping into things and falling down is a regular occurrence and they've learned to fall properly and minimize injury. Not necessarily so this time. The nurse reported that she had asked our daughter to rate her pain using a pain faces chart and our daughter had rated her pain a 10 so I should come get her and take her for an x-ray. Have you ever seen one of those charts? Can you honestly tell me that any child would ever rate their pain on any occasion at less than 10? I spoke with the patient who confirmed that she had fallen down the stairs, thought she'd just rolled her ankle (like she usually does) so she got up to shake it off and keep going (like she usually does) and went back down because she couldn't bear weight. She tried to stand up again to call a friend to help her get to the nurse's office and proceeded to fall down a third time. She was quite calm and level-headed when we spoke, insisted that this was different from the other times she'd fallen down the stairs and told me her foot was swelling up and changing color. A trip to the pediatric orthopedist confirmed that she had a bad right lateral ankle sprain, which the doctor decided to treat as a break and she is now wearing one of those boot casts (that seem much cooler before you're stuck wearing one) that she's stuck wearing for 5 weeks. The moral of the story is two-fold: (1) when the school nurse calls, it's generally not to tell you that your child is a good kid and (2) though you may be skeptical when it comes to the pain faces chart, you know your kid and you probably know when your kid is exaggerating or not.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://goraina.com/books_smile.html" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMW9PlEaPxYgMcO5W89exWCFst9GuYrN3j-z3_CiPBvob0a0MY3FfeBukC0l0lAnFC8ASTD2FM1sLX9XN-1bwEGEiQ3ly43kq-9jkoPo85iN0lIuoad5Q9ZqJLqkt8h4UAtg0fm_bin5c/s200/smile-cover.jpg" width="136" /></a></div>One of my favorite recent books involving a youngster sustaining injury is Raine Telgemeier's <a href="http://goraina.com/books_smile.html"><i><b>Smile</b></i></a>, a 2011 Children's Choice Book Awards finalist for 5th-6th Grade Book of the Year. I have blogged about it before and will likely do so again. It's a great upper elementary and middle school comic book/graphic novel that tells the story of a twelve-year old who trips, falls, knocks out her front teeth and embarks on a miserable orthodontic adventure requiring her to wear all sorts of devices, including but not limited to a retainer with fake teeth attached. All this while she's trying to deal with being 12 and anyone with a child who is close to 12, 12 or past 12 remembers that 12 is tough on its own. The story is fantastic and the images are spot-on. I happen to love that the author's website is <a href="http://goraina.com/">GoRaina.com</a> because as you read the book, you really can't help but shout "Go Raina" on a regular basis.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.harperteen.com/books/Kick/?isbn=9780062004895" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgc8rc76bAFlJ6e9x5OoRLm2Gel4hjyKgeBZrJKWGa1du-VHHbC556miH1rQGleRMKfFRiLDEQ8inF0UFHXrnj8sh6jQ8Agp7OJrHSg5qlBTFjX5fa5brGdPbDw5pDCxCJwvFdhwGIhllE/s1600/Kick.jpg" /></a></div>Since I've decided it's cheating to keep blogging about the same books, no matter how apropos they seem, and there are so many great books to write about, I've decided to include a second book pick today. In honor of our daughter's sprained ankle, which is keeping her out of gym and sports for the next few weeks, consider picking up a copy of <a href="http://www.harperteen.com/books/Kick/?isbn=9780062004895"><i><b>Kick</b></i></a> by Walter Dean Myers and Ross Workman. This book about a thirteen year old soccer player headed for juvenile detention who develops a meaningful relationship with a cop is notable both for being a compelling story and for being a unique collaboration. The back cover says it all:<br />
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<b>Here is the email that started it all:</b><br />
Subject: Email from a Big Fan<br />
Date: Mon., 3 September 10:07 AM<br />
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Dear Mr. Myers,<br />
One of the reasons that you're my favorite author is that your characters seem so real and genuine. You're the only author I know of who doesn't sound like an adult when you're writing about kids.<br />
Sincerely, Ross Workman<br />
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Subject: Re Email from a Big Fan<br />
Date: Mon., 3 September 2:38 PM<br />
Hey, Ross!<br />
Okay, let's write a story. 80 pages with alternating voices. I do the first ten, then you do the second, etc.... What do you think?<br />
Walter Dean Myers<br />
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<b>Hundreds of emails and three years later, <a href="http://www.harperteen.com/books/Kick/?isbn=9780062004895">Kick</a> is a published book. </b><br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://richardmichelson.com/B_Busing-Brewster.html" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="160" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhRjHOBcl4ESlX1u1HwB9WkQJRXDzyeh2iYsUJxUE_GWAVerub5Osb1R9FL98gTBKqPyfj3iyq0NEw4lGrqHmFjPS1DgTW0iEh8gezXAOZn2oLdB_m9w1W-Hv8OVEO8yEQ7NCAnm8GjgBk/s200/busing_brewster.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>The easy thing to do now would be to say that hey, I spoke with Stacy Schiff so obviously <a href="http://www.stacyschiff.com/cleopatra-a-life.html"><i><b>Cleopatra: A Life</b></i></a> is the book pick of today's post. That goes without saying. But since I've already done that and Vicky Alvear Shecter's <a href="http://www.arthuralevinebooks.com/book.asp?bookid=192"><i><b>Cleopatra's Moon</b></i></a> (which you really must read) several times, I've decided to go a different way. In honor of buses, today's pick is Richard Michelson's <a href="http://richardmichelson.com/B_Busing-Brewster.html"><i><b>Busing Brewster</b></i></a>. <a href="http://richardmichelson.com/B_Busing-Brewster.html"><i><b>Busing Brewster</b></i></a> is a picture book that tells the story of Brewster, a first grader who is representative of young African-American children in the 1970s, who were bused to previously-segregated all white schools. All three of these books share success at making history accessible, interesting and relevant.Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-58574373270915562242011-09-19T06:53:00.000-07:002011-09-19T06:53:11.594-07:00What I'm Reading Now<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://geraldinebrooks.com/the-books/calebs-crossing/" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEguyRDHOscGRfrBoZByAkYltd5ssTmtldjS4_mcLrzSazhq1CN-xoFa9EomAUnBioozj0BaLg8XrsmtkoossE92icmCjhRduobGSYVRiPxmBjadPmSsIY3VSbpnexYgyI4vT3xHQnU5-9g/s200/caleb%2527s+crossing.jpg" width="133" /></a></div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiPF2BE9fRmS9Hoff5DgdvUi97saiWBreJO2aMSA1AngERXB5EX-cTSh_9TFG4fT3DHaJQrl4E1xngAR1phXfF82m7ojeyjSeLZ4HquviV82650jROjhiFDhb92a9gLUzBTl7PCz9FGlHo/s1600/pile+of+books.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiPF2BE9fRmS9Hoff5DgdvUi97saiWBreJO2aMSA1AngERXB5EX-cTSh_9TFG4fT3DHaJQrl4E1xngAR1phXfF82m7ojeyjSeLZ4HquviV82650jROjhiFDhb92a9gLUzBTl7PCz9FGlHo/s200/pile+of+books.jpg" width="200" /></a>I recently read and thoroughly enjoyed<a href="http://geraldinebrooks.com/the-books/calebs-crossing/"><i><b> Caleb's Crossing</b></i></a> by Geraldine Brooks. I happen to be a huge fan of Brooks' style of historical fiction and her writing; I loved <i><b>Year of Wonders</b></i> and <i><b>People of the Book</b></i>. <a href="http://geraldinebrooks.com/the-books/calebs-crossing/"><i><b>Caleb's Crossing</b></i></a> made me appreciate both the author and the historical realities she confronts in her writing that much more. This is the story of the first Native American to graduate from Harvard. There is little known about the young scholar so Brooks weaves a compelling and intriguing tale. Her narrator is a young, smart and curious girl from a Puritan family who desperately wishes she could receive the same educational opportunities as the boys in her community, including her not-the-brightest-bulb brother. She and the young Native American who her missionary father seeks to provide an education develop a secret and profound friendship. Such a satisfying read!<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.hachettebookgroup.com/teens_books_9780316013697_Description.htm" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQF7Cta4RuoGY8JgLkmDuFI7ZB8f1sOPtHaZ5tIy2dfuuChq-kOP-kUvmY7vvuEe9R30qv_gMqROY2dyIGOTWdWWqv_gZH2Rggx8XsqU37-bFUoX79-n6n47x9BQSiZkSUhwvXOp6E1D8/s200/Sherman+Alexie.jpg" width="131" /></a></div>If you've been following this blog for some time, then you know that one of my great joys is matching up adult and children's books that complement one another. I cannot help but think that the perfect young reader companion to <a href="http://geraldinebrooks.com/the-books/calebs-crossing/"><i><b>Caleb's Crossing</b></i></a> may be Sherman Alexie's <a href="http://www.hachettebookgroup.com/teens_books_9780316013697_Description.htm"><i><b>The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian</b></i></a>. This semi-autobiographical novel for young adults tells the story of a teenager who leaves his his reservation to attend an all-white farm town high school where the only thing close to a Native American is the mascot. This 2007 National Book Award for Young People's Literature winner has been on my must-read list for a while. The time has come. And the timing is perfect because next week (September 24-October 1) is Banned Books Week and it so happens that <a href="http://www.hachettebookgroup.com/teens_books_9780316013697_Description.htm"><i><b>The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian </b></i></a>is one of the most frequently banned books of the last decade, because of references to and depictions of domestic violence, drug abuse, racism, poverty and sexuality and the use of profane language. Banned Books Week is a national celebration of the freedom to read. Hundreds of books are challenged in schools and libraries every year and you can be sure that some of your favorites are on that list (ahem... Judy Blume?!). I try to read a frequently challenged book every year around this time to take my own little stand. Bring on the Diary...<span style="font-family: Arial,Helv,Helvetica;"></span>Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-85402908234382518722011-09-14T12:11:00.000-07:002011-09-14T12:11:37.077-07:00Where there's smoke...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikexY2R8ZLw-mv0K5IIhuN1OmNbfZhVI83I0DzPSd6mSENa38krobO0PivuJ81V5qNpgeNQM557rZ4f603JvfIsAXADQdVnEZOphytNDgOMoEssR2_4J_I0jHlwWmhSDAlYNB6FybXRDc/s1600/no+smoking.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikexY2R8ZLw-mv0K5IIhuN1OmNbfZhVI83I0DzPSd6mSENa38krobO0PivuJ81V5qNpgeNQM557rZ4f603JvfIsAXADQdVnEZOphytNDgOMoEssR2_4J_I0jHlwWmhSDAlYNB6FybXRDc/s200/no+smoking.png" width="200" /></a></div>Another story from my mornings walking the dog... Lev (our pooch) and I were walking through our neighborhood early this morning when a lit cigarette came flying out of a window above us. We couldn't believe it! Seriously, we both instinctively jumped back and looked at one another incredulously. You know, you warn your kids about the evils of smoking and caution them about the danger of secondhand smoke but who would think of warning them about lit cigarettes being tossed from apartment building windows? Our daughters have enough trouble walking down the street without tripping or bumping into things. What a disaster it would be if they had to keep an eye on what might be falling from the sky while they're already looking ahead, trying to avoid bumping into people and looking down, trying to avoid the dog poop our neighbors have neglected to scoop. The danger associated with cigarettes knows no limits. Just Say No!<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://us.macmillan.com/smoke-1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAWi3ODL43Q4hfz801xxlxiubhAoBAh5jbZDIGf3DnaxhX6x6gCZdcVQRoIgcls2UYwewVml0GHqHEK_TbZXKJK0aVs3ZYbcSJiWy2K6UIWHoyJmlQjSmq-MDhMSn86nP3_rDGqfNZGQI/s200/smoke.jpg" width="133" /></a></div>Here's a middle grade (meaning 9-12 year olds) book to consider that allows me to tie in both smoking and pets - consider Mavis Jukes' <a href="http://us.macmillan.com/smoke-1"><i><b>Smoke</b></i></a>. The title character is the 12-year old protagonist's cat who goes missing after his young owner, Colt, is transplanted to a new home. Smoke was given to Colt as a gift from his dad when he was little and helped him feel connected to his dad after his parents divorced and he and his mom moved away. Smoke gets lost and the search for him puts Colt's life in danger, offering a whole new twist on the harm caused by smoke. Per the<a href="http://us.macmillan.com/smoke-1"> publisher's website</a>, this story offers a "captivating look at cowboys, courage, and community, this is a tender tale about family and friends pulling together, and what it really means to be a man."Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-39519874931581430382011-09-13T12:09:00.000-07:002011-09-13T12:09:33.156-07:00If the shoe fits...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcrtfikIAblJxpH9JxGQougxlm5DTr9RJrYW8EqH3jExl6JEaZnH0g92rnC5c8k3yfQtTTDjzixXapD3m1R9nNmhG7NvNaXNNjeaRJzNt7vF_TvRQKnOSDmfVTTjv6P0P0aASCG1kXP9A/s1600/Plaid.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcrtfikIAblJxpH9JxGQougxlm5DTr9RJrYW8EqH3jExl6JEaZnH0g92rnC5c8k3yfQtTTDjzixXapD3m1R9nNmhG7NvNaXNNjeaRJzNt7vF_TvRQKnOSDmfVTTjv6P0P0aASCG1kXP9A/s200/Plaid.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>One of our daughters got dressed for school this morning in a bulky sweater. She then proceeded to mope about our home and complained that she looked fat. For a moment, let's ignore the fact that today is a hot and sunny day, emphasis on hot, by which I mean to say that it is not anywhere close to bulky sweater weather. The comment was a test and I was determined to pass. "Sweetie," I said, "you are anything but fat and nothing could make you look fat". This is the truth. She looked right through me and, to some spot on the wall I was incapable of seeing, said, "I feel fat". I asked why she didn't just change her clothes. She shrugged her shoulders. I insisted again that she did not look fat and suggested that maybe the lack of shape of the sweater was making her feel this way. I went on to explain that when you look like her, even a bulky sweater does not make you look fat as opposed to when you look like me and wear bulky sweaters to hide stuff , you must wear them with leggings so that at least some shape can be detected. I have been accused of offering unsolicited long-winded dissertations to our daughters and this was turning into one of those. I invoked the weather and suggested she put a shirt on under the sweater because when she gets too hot in the sweater, as she inevitably will, and wants to take it off, she should have a comfortable and slightly more fitted shirt underneath that will show her trim figure just a little better. She shrugged. I reminded her that today's temp will reach the mid-eighties and she will definitely be too hot. She put a t-shirt on underneath the sweater. She attends a school with a uniform and cannot walk around in a t-shirt so this made no sense at all. I told her. She took the t-shirt off but kept the bulky sweater. All I could do at this point was make sure she brought deodorant to school with her because sweat was the only sure thing. On the deodorant front, I succeeded. Everywhere else - epic fail!<br />
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I'd like to believe that younger generations will grow up without hangups like these but if the man on the street this morning has kids of his own, who can say what messages they've been getting and disseminating? And we all know there are lots more like him. Further, we all know that gay teens continue to be subjected to unmitigated bullying by other teens. The cycle will continue until more people stand up and make an effort to end it by teaching their kids about fairness, compassion, equality and to embrace difference. For my part, I am relieved that our daughters are far more evolved that the man with the dog. When gay marriage was legalized in New York, they were confused as to how and why the law would have treated gay and straight people differently in the first place. I was stumped for a good answer.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Boy-Meets-David-Levithan/dp/0375832998" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYdvG5AFzglC085vX_n5yZp885cdWhRfh4ianh_5YYJNHbv_0RmJ2kLLIFjIdApNmdZc4Se8eMPUyS5boNcIxeFcEstJKT7csGFLF8qdiROWQ4sInY16b_CSXp6TFUUwCKjIOe3tiEx-E/s200/boymeetsboy.jpg" width="133" /></a></div>At a diversity conference I attended last year at New York City's Hewitt School, attendees were asked what book representing diversity they would urge young adults to read. One librarian revealed that she recommends David Levithan's <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Boy-Meets-David-Levithan/dp/0375832998"><i><b>Boy Meets Boy</b></i></a> to every teenager that seeks her out and even some that don't. Great choice! The story is narrated by Paul, who, like most teenagers, is preoccupied with love. The twist is that instead of the typical "boy-meets-girl" scenario, this one is "boy-meets-boy". An additional twist is the fact that though Paul is gay, he is not a tragic, rejected figure. Rather, he's just a typical teenager, dealing with relationship woes. Paul attends what we might consider a fantasy high school where tolerance reigns and shame is banished. The extreme positivity of the school environment gives readers a chance to read a story about someone just like them but maybe a little bit different and gives gay kids a chance to read a story about someone they can relate to who is not treated like a victim - there's something hopeful in seeing yourself portrayed a little more like everyone else. It's a great recommendation that I wholeheartedly endorse.Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5092972326426195430.post-83844653313440722182011-09-06T14:23:00.000-07:002011-09-06T14:23:03.297-07:00Happy Birthday A & K!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNMTkPYKL_uLeAhe8wOfAs0VWLGmdBbfB4v3yXiOECuYlMfGGlpPbje1vO0KnFtMDuzFEuRDfl9n0AUSCBNPXHKQQx9NJJfHtWJatg3H8QihvM3SbEp-WOTvdCu2AMUVQlOQM1uFG5tbg/s1600/Red+Velvet+5.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="133" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNMTkPYKL_uLeAhe8wOfAs0VWLGmdBbfB4v3yXiOECuYlMfGGlpPbje1vO0KnFtMDuzFEuRDfl9n0AUSCBNPXHKQQx9NJJfHtWJatg3H8QihvM3SbEp-WOTvdCu2AMUVQlOQM1uFG5tbg/s200/Red+Velvet+5.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>And just like that (*snap*), summer has come to a close. We returned home from vacation in the wee hours of Labor Day morning and changed from summer vacation mode to school preparedness mode in an instant. Our three kids attend two different schools, only one of which began today. Despite the fact that the other one will begin tomorrow, we heard a chorus of "it's not fair" with a smattering of "can't I just miss the first day?" for effect. The first day back is tough on many people. I have always tried to arm our daughters with confidence on occasions such as this by reminding them of how wonderful they are and how nice it will be to reconnect with friends. As if that would ever work! The only thing that got people out the door this morning was the promise of a birthday celebration featuring red velvet cake for our two daughters who turn 13 years old today. Thank goodness for birthdays and double thanks for red velvet! But most of all, I am so grateful for our wonderful daughters and I wish only good things for our two spectacular birthday girls!<br />
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It's not easy to tell one teenager, let alone three, that the answer's in a book, or two, so I held back this morning but I am now intent on having all three of our children read<i><b> <a href="http://www.blogger.com/goog_1892864061">Cleopatra: A Life</a></b></i><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Cleopatra-Life-Stacy-Schiff/dp/0316001929"> </a>by Stacy Schiff, followed by <a href="http://www.arthuralevinebooks.com/book.asp?bookid=192"><i><b>Cleopatra's Moon</b></i></a> by Vicky Alvear Shecter. The first is the biography of the last queen of Egypt, a brilliant and charismatic leader. The second is a fictional account of the life and times of her daughter, about whom we know even less than we do about her mother. In both accounts, mother and daughter were scholarly, exceedingly intelligent, powerful women who were born to lead. I hope teenagers will give the biography a chance because it's so got so much fascinating material about one of the most intriguing women of all time. If that seems like too much for some, though, there's no way around the fact that<a href="http://www.arthuralevinebooks.com/book.asp?bookid=192"><i><b> Cleopatra's Moon</b></i></a> is just an exceptional story, exquisitely written. It's a novel I've discussed before because I savored every page and then couldn't wait to share it. I am a big fan of stories, real and made up, that feature brilliant and powerful women. All the better if they're compassionate too!Robin Adelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16175305295163454365noreply@blogger.com0